Telling the (difficult) truth

I am following up on my latest post, to give the title of the book that I mentioned there. The two commenters asked for the name of it, but I thought others may want it as well so I'm putting it into a post.

It's called Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past by Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler. It was recommended to us by our agency, and we bought it from our agency (they maintain a really good library), but I know that it's also available on amazon. So far I've only read through the parts of the book that are relevant to our situation, but I have found it helpful. It gives advice for different ages and various situations.

This is a big issue for us - telling our daughter her full story, which includes some not-so-easy truths. It is something that we discussed at length while we were in the adoption paperwork process, since our agency asked us to think about various situations. I feel very strongly about giving our child all of the information that we have, even when it's difficult to hear. Mr. P wasn't so convinced at first (this was when we were talking about things in a hypothetical way), and while he came around, I still fear that this divergence will appear again as little A gets older.

This is something that I spend so much time thinking about, yet I don't have anyone to talk to about it (other than Mr. P, and he doesn't want to talk about it as much as I do). I don't feel 100% comfortable discussing it here on this blog for privacy purposes. I've thought of going password-protected (at least for some posts) but I even feel a bit leary of that. No one in our lives, other than our agency, knows the full story that we do regarding our little A's birthfather, and so there isn't anyone in real life to talk to about it either. This is something I've been struglling with for a few months now.

In any case, I was very happy to have found this book, and I hope that others will find it useful as well.