Best & worst comments received about adoption....

Mr. P and I announced that we were starting the adoption process once we were accepted into our agency's program. This was pretty early on in the process. We did it via a mass email to family and friends. I was really clear in the email about what I did and did not want to hear about this decision. For instance, no reference to L.ifet.ime movies in which children are taken away from adopting parents by birth parents who've changed their minds. Or that I will now surely get pregnant. The comments came, most of them extremely supportive, and continue to come. In any case, here are some of the worst, as well as some of the best:

• Wow. Is it going to cost you a million dollars?
• Are you happy? (Would anyone dream of saying this to a friend who just announced she was pregnant when you knew that she was trying?? This comment - to me - clearly shows that the person who said it thinks adoption is a distant second best to having a biological child.)
• I hope you can have your "own" kids someday. (Again, adoption is second best. What we all must really want is our "own" kids.)
• My grandfather, whose wife's granchildren were all adopted, commented, "I always wish A*** (his wife) would have had some grandchildren of her own."
• Oh, and of course I continue to hear from people that I will surely now get pregnant once I adopt. I just need to relax! Duh!

Now, for some of the best comments:

• When I had some people from over for dinner, some who already knew about the adoption and some who didn't, I was talking about the adoption and someone who hadn't previously known said, "Oh, yeah, I could tell there was something going on about a baby around here. I thought you were going to say that you were having a baby." Without missing a beat, another friend said, "They ARE having a baby!"
• When our social worker saw our profile for the first time, after she had finished looking through it she said: "A +++++." That was music to my ears. I was so nervous!
• When I told my principal about it, and told her that I would most likely only be able to give her 1 week notice that I would need to take 3 months off, she smiled and said, "Yay! I love babies!!" I was so relieved.
• My mom is always saying that this is so special because if we were pregnant, we would be wondering if it's a girl or a boy, but with the adoption we can wonder not just boy or girl, but also what will this child look like? Will he/she be African-American? Korean? Multi-racial? Have green eyes? Have curly hair?
• And perhaps best of all, we have heard over and over again, "Congratulations!"

What are some of the best and worst comments you've received related to your decision to adopt?