We are thoroughly enjoying this honeymoon period of having little A home. My mom has been up here for a week, and will be here for another week. It's been so wonderful to have her around - she is a HUGE help and little A is her first grandchild, so she is thrilled to be here. I know she will be sad to leave.
I went back to work this week (two days), and I am going to work next week as well (just a 4-day week). I decided to do this partly because it means that when I go back it will be at the beginning of new units that we'll be studying in class and a new language cycle (I teach dual language - in English and Spanish), and also to cushion the blow of going without salary for 12 weeks (thank you d.epart.ment of ed.uca.tion for not giving teachers ANY time off with pay to care for our own young ones!! ech.) Anyway, it's been hard to leave A at home, but not too, too bad since it's my mom who is staying home with her. I'll go back to work full time the first week of December.
When I was at school yesterday one of my colleagues and friends asked me what has been the hardest thing. Honestly, it just hasn't been hard at all. I think what would be hard at this point would be if A was inconsolable. Fortunately, she is a fairly straight forward communicator and we can easily figure out how to make her feel better if she is ever uncomfortable (mostly she fusses when she's hungry). I know that things will not always be so rosy, but let me tell you, for right now it is pretty awesome.
But my bliss has also led me down such thought paths as..... are adoptive parents/parents after IF somehow more easy-going once baby arrives because it has been their central hope for so many years? I don't think I could bring this up with any of my friends who have had children without having any fertility issues, because it just seems offensive to them. I have to wonder how different my perspective is as a mother who has been trying to bring a child into my life for 5 years as opposed to a parent who conceived and gave birth with relative ease. Honestly, I hate to think that my perspective is so different because it invites the creation of some kind of hierarchy of motherhood. Perhaps I just don't find things as difficult as other people in general? Or, alas, perhaps our honeymoon is almost over and soon I'll be posting rants here at reservadoparafuturamama......
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I wonder about that too! My only other thought is that your body has not been affected by birth and hormones and stuff, so maybe its a little easier to be thankful when you're not physically recuperating. Who knows.
But gosh, sounds to me like its one arena where you've got it better than the fertiles!! Fantastic!!
Yes! The fact that my hormones are not fluctuating like crazy and my body was not physically exhuasted from pregnancy and birth when we brought A home surely makes a huge difference.
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